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By: Virginia Tsai; Translator: Angela Leung
If we work hard for a long period of time, we are satisfied with what we have accomplished. □ When things come easily, it they are sometimes less precious to us. □ In our relationships with the opposite sex, it is often a different story. When we do our best to pursue love, it turns out to be painful; when we get it is not as sweet as we expected.
Sometimes love comes quietly
Some people never plan to date or to look for a mate.□ They have friends, and of course some are closer. They talk and share, they understand and care for each other. □ Over time they discover that they have feelings for each other.□□ Their feelings are true and they discover that they both feel the same way. □ He or she is the right companion for their life-long journey. Love comes quietly into their lives and binds them together.
On our site, the most frequently asked question from guys is “How can I know that the woman I like has the same feelings for me?” In some cases, a guy starts to date a woman. They enjoy the first few dates, but then she begins to refuse to hang out with him, and he begins to worry. □ “Does she still have the feeling for me?” Other times, a woman tries to attract a man. But when he responds, the woman doesn’t show any interest in him. She may say, “I like you, but we are only friends. I don’t have any feelings for you. Why can’t we just be friends?”
Men and women respond to love differently
Men and women have different innate responses toward love. From a woman’s perspective, “I like him” does not necessarily mean “I love him.” Men are often confused by women’s attitudes. Maybe it is our tradition or culture that a guy has to pursue his girlfriend by through gifts, impressive dates and hard work. But even if he wins her heart, it does not mean that their days will be full of perfect love. In reality, things are different.□ Love isn’t perfect, no matter how hard you have worked.
In addition, women, who have been well treated and over-protected before marriage, often expect to have the same attention from their husbands after they are married. Often this does not happen. Men no longer work as hard after they have succeeded in winning a wife. They expect their wives to be beautiful and intelligent, be good financial supporters and professional coworkers. With the differences in expectation, they ended up complaining about each other.
The best love is built on honesty
In some cases women try their best to win a man. No matter who takes the initiative, their attitude often changes after they are married.□ They don’t continue to treat their spouse the way they did in the first exciting days of love. It’s hard for the couples to maintain their love when they were expecting a different situation.
If the lovers are honest to each other instead of only showing their best when dating; they build their love on a foundation of understanding and commitment. Then these lovers would be able to enjoy life and maintain a good relationship after they get married.□ Better love comes naturally!
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