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By: Virginia Tsai; Translator: Angela Leung
Yeah, I have the same experience.
A lovely teenage student notices a handsome student walking towards her.□ Immediately she has her chest up and hopes to catch his attention. That poor silly guy, who is probably still thinking about his classes, doesn’t pay any attention to her as he passes by. She then swiftly runs around the building and makes another chance to pass by him. In order to make him notice her she purposely runs into him, dropping her books and notes. He nervously picks up the books and finally he looks at her and says, “Hey! You look familiar! Did we meet before?”
Regardless of how many times I watch this TV ad, this story reminds me that I have a similar story.
Don’t date until you are a junior!
Before I went abroad to study, my father had a long talk with me. I have forgotten most what he said. I only remember one of his valuable suggestions. “When you are a freshman or sophomore, you are still young. You might not be able to make a good decision, so don’t date until you are a junior. Looking for a boyfriend at school is better than looking at your work place. College students are simple; working men are complicated and mostly not trustworthy.”
I interpreted my father’s words as, “I may date when I am a college student.” I changed his words, “a junior is mature enough to look for a boyfriend” to “if I am mature like a junior, I might have a boyfriend though I am a freshman.” I also think that “Dating can be planned and worked out like study. I may date regardless of whether I am a junior or a freshman. It is under my control.” So besides studying, looking for a good guy is one of my goals in university.
Where are the good guys?
In our dormitory, women talked about women. Women also talked about men. They always asked, “Where can we find good guys?” I laughed to myself and thought, “Oh you fool! How can you find a good guy in women’s dorm? Go out and shop for him!” At first, I was like those women who wished that my prince charming would appear in front of me and take me to his love castle. Then I discovered that the guys who were interested in me, weren’t the ones that I was interested in. The guys I appreciated never paid any attention to me. I realized that I needed to take action, to make these foolish guys notice me.□ So I was always well prepared.□ I dressed up and made myself look cute and charming.
Make him pay attention to me!
Where are the places I might find a good guy? Those who love to party cannot get my attention. So I won’t waste time going to parties. I like men with gentle and loving hearts. When I was a freshman, I joined the student service center to increase my chances of meeting men with charitable hearts.
I became Christian when I was a sophomore. Then I noticed that I like guys in my fellowship group and in my church. Therefore, I constantly participated in these kinds of activities. Through e-mail, letters and communication, I understood them more and know what our differences before I make friends with them.
If you cannot find a good guy to marry, here is the trick. Good guys are those who usually look silly and often focus on their study, research or worshipping God. They don’t usually look at women. You should take the initiative action like that lovely teenage student who made one more run around the building to catch her dream guy’s attention. The more you expose yourself to the market, the more you profit from it and more opportunities may fall to you.
~ Author Virginia is the Chief Editor of the Faith and Love website www.fhl.net